On Friday, January 11th, 2019, we held our first Coaching Conversations event at Genuine Joe’s Coffee Shop on West Anderson in North Central Austin. We had a small but mighty group of seven including Deanna Couras Goodson, our Director at Large, and Elly Van Laar, our Membership Coordinator. Deanna and Elly led the group in a guided discussion about goals for 2019.
What were people’s goals?
Everyone had unique and interested goals. They ran the gamut from getting paying clients to wondering if ICF certification is right for me and connecting to other coaches. Everyone wanted to move their business forward in 2019 but wasn’t quite sure what steps to take. As a group, we did some brainstorming. We had a great discussion on the goals. We loved that Elly wanted to learn more how to say NO to things so she can say YES to herself and other opportunities. There’s great power in a NO. We would all do well to remember that.
Digressions but not really
We had a few digressions. One of our major digressions was into the discussion of therapy vs. coaching. One participant mentioned that David Burns, the father of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) says that most therapy is basically bubkus. We couldn’t confirm or deny that statement, but we enjoyed discussing the difference between therapy and coaching.
We picked up two main distinctions. First, most therapists work in the past more than the present or the future. Coaches try to take their clients into a place of action and change. We want to create a better life for our clients. This isn’t to say that therapists don’t, but the therapy model is set up very differently from the coaching model. This leads us to the second digression. That is that therapy is set up so that the client will need to continue going to the therapist for years on end. Coaches prepare their clients for the day that they are no longer needed. We give our clients roots and wings sort of like parents do their children. Perhaps that means we may have more turn around in our client base, but we will get to impact more people as a result.
The Emotional Male
One of our participants works with men and how he helps them find their emotional side. We discussed a bit about how society conditions young men to hide their emotional selves and many feel uncomfortable with expressing certain emotions as they get older. The resource, “The Mask You Live In” was mentioned and some participants said that they had seen the film. It’s about growing up male in the west with all the trials and tribulations that go along with it.
One member mentioned that everyone has super powers so Deanna asked everyone to say what their superpower was. Some mentioned resiliency, compassion, empathy, the eternal search for meaning and so forth. Everyone was able to access a super power and Elly moved the conversation to how that super power shows up in your business or coaching practice. This lead to some interesting discussion.
Bringing it all home to Goals
We decided to wrap up by discussing some action steps we’d take to achieve our goals in 2019. Some of us narrowed down our goals, some broadened them. Most of us just listened while others provided suggestions and information on how each one of us could move forward.
January’s Coaching Conversations was a success! Everyone contributed and felt engaged. It was a wonderful conversation with a great group of people. We hope that this program will continue to expand in 2019. For more questions on Coaching Conversations, please contact Deanna Goodson. The next event is set for February 8, 2019 from 12-1:30 pm at Genuine Joe’s. To sign up, visit our events page.