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Befriend Your Saboteur with Elly van Laar

  • May 30, 2017
  • 6:00 PM - 8:30 PM
  • Riverbend Church 4214 Capital of Texas Hwy N. Room 5B Austin Texas 78746


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Elly van Laar presents: 

"Befriend Your Saboteur"

Clients often struggle with inner critical voices that stop them from moving forward. They try to silence their saboteur, but don’t have effective ways to do that. Affirmations, goal setting, and positive thinking don’t seem to do the trick. They want to trust that their decisions support their future self, and are stuck between forcing themselves to take action or maintaining the status quo.

In this workshop, you’ll experience a visualization that could help your clients to:

·       Listen to the needs of their inner critic

·       Include those needs in the path they want to commit to

·       Connect to the wisdom of their future self

·       Acknowledge the courage, creativity, and compassion it takes to move forward

·       Make peace with all the different parts within themselves

During this program we will explore:

·       Some basic concepts of the Chooser-Judger model in Nonviolent Communication

·       Everything we say and do is an attempt to meet human needs.

·       Needs are universal throughout space and time.

·       Empathy helps to understand those needs. 

·       Our saboteur and our aspirations get expressed in our physical sensations.

·       Connecting to our physical sensation is an effective way to empathize with all the needs within us.

Participant take-a-ways:

Participants will have experienced a visualization exercise that they can use with their clients. They’ll have basic understanding of some key concepts in Nonviolent Communication. They will receive a handout with the didactic material and the written-out visualization.

Elly van Laar specializes in helping professionals balance purpose, relationships, and self-care.  For 20 years, Elly has helped individuals, couples and organizations deepen compassion and empathy skills, bridge differences, and find solutions that benefit all parties. Elly is a speaker and blogger on Nonviolent Communication, mindfulness, and conflict resolution. Elly has a Masters in Political Science from Leiden University in the Netherlands. She has nine years of training with Nonviolent Communication teachers and six years of teaching Nonviolent Communication. She belongs to Thich Nhat Hanh’s Plum Blossom mindfulness community, volunteers at the Austin Dispute Resolution Center and is a member of Amnesty International since 1980.

To find out more about Elly visit


Riverbend Church

4214 Capital of Texas Hwy N., Room 5B

Austin, TX 78746

(512) 327-3540

Meeting Agenda:

6:00 - 6:30 PM - Event Check-In & Social Time
6:30 - 6:40 PM - Chapter Business
6:40 - 8:30 PM - Guest Presentation & discussion

Plenty of free parking!


Whether a coach or not, everyone is welcome to attend our meetings. The following fees cover activities and meeting costs:

  • ICF Local (Austin) Members and Affiliates - FREE
  • ICF Global Members, Non-ICF Local Members -$20
  • Guests (Non ICF-Local or Global Members) - $20
We welcome everyone!  

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